What to Expect When... Getting Married
First and foremost, I have a couple of announcements. The podcast is coming back! After a year and a half in hibernation, I knew it was time to bring it back. But this time, there will be a new format and a cohost. I am super excited because we recorded some of the shows today and the banter is just fantastic. Look out for the first episode this week. The other day, the comedian and I were talking about preparation for marriage. When you buy a car or have a baby, some people take the time to do their research before finalizing on a decision. Why don't we do that when we decide to get married? I lucked out in the sense that the Comedian was extremely adamant about building a foundation before making any serious moves, like getting married or having children. You can't fix a relationship that's already broken.
There are some people out there that believe a child can put a band-aid on a serious problem or that sex is the solution to avoiding a relationship. It's kind of like alcoholism. The problems just don't disappear because your mind is somewhere else. They will be there when you get back. I had a good friend of mine was going through a divorce and decided to move across the country from Orlando to LA in hopes that a change of scenery would bring him back to his usual self. Unfortunately, it didn't. He went into a little bit of a depression and decided to move back. In reality, his support system was here in Orlando. The people around him nursed him back to himself, and he was able to date again.
I'm not saying our system is perfect, but we can both say we know the other person well. The Comedian promises he has more romantic gestures up his sleeves and those are the kinds of surprises I like. There is a reason the court in Florida gives you a discount on your marriage certificate when you take a course before getting hitched. Marriage is supposed to be forever. That's what we all say in our vows. Take the time to read some books together or try one of those "get to know you" questionnaires they have on Pinterest. I've done a few of those with the Comedian early in our relationship. I'll even add a link to a few for good measure.
Many of us women have this dream of finally being loved by our prince charming. I know it's easier said than done but take the time out to get to know your prince before he becomes your King. He could very well be a frog.
Here are some books to read together and links to those questionnaires I promised.