Is Rejection Worth the Risk
I realized I haven't posted in a while but I promise to add new content to my page on a more regular basis this coming year. I will be starting my MBA in January but it doesn't matter. Challenge Accepted! For whatever reason, I find it extremely intriguing when the Comedian gives dating advice to younger cousins. It's not because his advice isn't valid or makes sense but all of it makes complete sense. It gives me insight into the mind of a man. Because we met online, he never really used pick up lines or had to hit on me at the bar. I have my own theories over several years of dating and being single. I know to smile when I want someone to come over. I know to laugh at his jokes even if they aren't funny. I have to give it to men sometimes, because of social stigma, we expect them to take charge of the situation and risk getting rejected. Women, over the years, have taken more of an initiative. Call me "old fashioned" but I always felt out of place or too masculine if I took control and approached a guy. In all honesty, I can say about 75% of the time I was rejected but if I was approached, more than 90% of the time there was some success in the conversation.
This, by all means, should not deter anyone from trying to approach someone their interested in. I think everyone has to find what works for them. I have learned to make the conversation about the other person not about me. You learn much more about what might work or not work with that person the more you know about them. Then again, that's what works for me. I said something other day,
"Dating is like math, there are different ways to get to the answer but all that matters is you have the correct answer in the end."
Regardless if you're a guy or a girl, there is a risk of rejection. Don't lose faith. There are sincerely "plenty of fish" in the sea. That person was just not right for you. My best girlfriend told me once,
"If he doesn't get your jokes, he's not for you."
What she said held a lot of truth. My jokes can be very dry or very corny. But that's just who I am. I have a unique sense of humor and I needed to find someone who just got me. Thankfully, the Comedian gets my jokes. Whether they are funny or not. Usually, they are just really corny so I laugh at myself anyway, ha!
My point is, if you never took the chance, you will never know the outcome. Take the risk and you can say, at least I tried. What's the worst that could happen? She could say, "no". Then go about your day like any other. There will be another girl and another chance.