Hey guys! This is Tom
I don't know if I'm the only person who gets anxiety about this but I always do when I'm introducing someone I'm dating to my friends. Most of my friends think I'm crazy for putting so much emphasis on the introduction but by nature, I just worry about everyone's well being and I want them to play nice. My circumstance is a bit different considering, I've never really been that close to my family, so my friends sometimes fill those gaps when I really need someone to be there. Having them accept the person I'm dating is super duper important. A few months ago, a friend of mine which I used to date insisted on coming to visit me. I was a bit hesitant because most of our conversations end up in arguments, however, because I'm so nice, I didn't say no. Coincidentally, that same weekend, a friend of mine was having a dinner for her birthday and I didn't want my out of town guest to hinder an opportunity to hang out with my friends. So, I went to pick up my friend at the train station. He practically jumps on me and I realize, OMG... I am sooo not attracted to him like I used to be. I get nervous. I dropped him off at my apartment and went back to work to finish my day.
When I got from work, he practically attacked me again. Sigh... I push him off of me and we got ready to head out. What I didn't remember, for whatever reason, is that he couldn't hear out of one ear. We get to the restaurant, I say hi to everyone. We sat down and I waited for my best girlfriend, her husband and another good friend of mine to arrive. My best girlfriend's husband is a bit over protective of me, kind of like an older brother. When I initially introduce him to someone, he doesn't like to talk to them until he knows he's sticking around. I think not to get attached. Out of everyone, I think he makes me the most nervous, minus meeting my father, of course.
As we're at the table, this guy that I brought does not shut up! My friends are trying to ask him questions, but he doesn't hear them because of his faulty ear. This just got super embarrassing. Needless to say, I was never going to live this down (and I haven't yet :-/). I am not going to get into the details of the rest of the night, but let's say, I wasn't exactly the nicest person to him. I found it strange I could be a complete b**ch to him and got away with it. I wasn't proud of what I was doing but it was my reaction to embarrassment I endured. I couldn't wait for that visit to be over and it is one weekend I will never forget.
Experiences like these just make me more wary of who I'm bringing around. I do spend a lot of time with my friends but if I can sacrifice a couple of nights to make sure a guy is okay, I'm willing to do that then go through a crazy experience.