Why do women need control?
A few weeks ago, I was on a radio show and one of the hosts made a comment that she always pays for dinner, even on the first date. I did not agree with her, however, I kept my true opinion to myself because it wasn't my moment.
There is an underlying reason for wanting that control. Whether a guy took advantage of her in the past or her mother brought up to think that she can only fend for herself might be an explanation. Part of falling for someone is being vulnerable, to let go, and to be completely and utterly intimate with someone else. When you're holding onto the control, you never get to really feel the power of what love can do. I cannot guarantee you won't get hurt but
"Is it better to have love and lost than to have never loved at all?"
Honestly, that is your decision to make. Personally, I want to love. Just like Carrie from Sex and the City says,
"I'm looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't-live-without-each-other love."
I am not going to put down women in power but there is something beautiful about femininity. Why do we have to erase it from our very core? All because women need to be powerful in the courtroom does not mean that behind closed doors they cannot be someone else. This past weekend, I went to a conference and a body language expert said something.
"A woman's biggest strength is her warmth" - Susan Constantine MPsy
Yes, there is a double standard as women as leaders in the business world, but our make up is such that we are able to multitask better than men. That we do have a power that other men do not have, warmth. However, there is something to be said about melting to a man’s arms in a passionate embrace in the bedroom. Personally, I feel there’s nothing like it. There is no better high than hot, passionate, sweet, raw sex. If you have never experienced it before, it is because you have never let go of control and let emotions take over. You are severely missing out.
Regardless of everyone’s opinion, after all of the books I’ve read about relationships and advice, there is one prevailing theme. Men are the providers and protectors and women are the nurturers. Why fight Mother Nature? Out of the unhappy relationships I see, there is a balance that is not met. Whether you read the The 5 Love Languages or Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, understanding your role in your relationship and how your significant other loves you is what makes it all work.
If a man offers to pay, open a door, or compliment you, take it. Don’t fight it and want to control the situation. The man is simply doing what he was brought up to do. He is not trying to take your power or make you less of a woman(unless he's a total deuche). What makes you a woman is something else. It’s the fact that you can take on 20 tasks at a time and still have time to get your nails done, or the fact we have a high threshold of pain and the ability to bear children. That’s what makes us beautiful, a woman. We are smart, beautiful, and capable. Yes, we might not all NEED a man but he wants to feel needed. Let him have it. Why take it away?