Breaking the Dating Routine: Why First Conversations Feel Rehearsed

I haven’t written in a while—mostly because nothing in this “real world” has intrigued me enough to sit down and reflect. But lately, one thing has been on my mind: dating.

Just the other day, my best friend pointed out that one of my responses to a potential match sounded... rehearsed. And honestly? She was right.

After dating for the last seven years—with just one serious relationship that lasted eight months—a routine has formed. Every time I meet someone new, we go through the same checklist:
Age. Job. Passions. Quick personal backstory.
The context may vary, but the script? Basically unchanged.

Sure, my goals have evolved. I’ve lived, I’ve learned. But somehow, the first conversations always sound the same. It's like I’m reciting a well-rehearsed monologue, not because I’m insincere, but because I've said it so many times before. And truthfully? It’s boring.

Now don’t get me wrong—I enjoy the attention. But unless someone genuinely piques my curiosity, I often find myself dodging these repetitive convos. Maybe I’m just craving something real... or different.

Lately, I’ve been wondering if I stick with the routine because of external pressure—particularly from family—to “find the right one.” But what’s the rush? Even if the process feels stale, I know I’ve got a few more “get-to-know-you” conversations left in me.

And just to be clear—meeting people and dating are not the same. I love connecting with new people, but not everyone is part of the dating equation. Some serve a business purpose. Others become friends. The dating routine? That’s strictly reserved for those exploring something more romantic.