Is there such thing as "The One"?
Over the last couple of weeks, I've been thinking about "The One", whether this person exists. Not necessarily for my own selfish need but whether that idea is implanted in our head by Hollywood and whether it was plausible to find this person in a sea of 3-5 billion people worldwide. After questioning a few people, even those in their early twenties, I have to agree that maybe it isn't necessarily "The One", that it is really someone who crosses your path on a certain day or time, I do happen to be a believer that everything happens for a reason. This person who you might have crossed paths and made a connection might be someone who believes in your ideals and follows in a similar path, leading to a successful relationship. I have told someone recently that this person you do find might not be perfect, but they are perfect for you in that time and place you are in your life.
After the butterflies in your stomach had subsided, then the real relationship begins. Communication is the key. I read in an article recently that when you do find this person that you want to spend a long time with you will have be able to speak openly to them about anything. I think this is where most relationships fail. There is this darkness that someone isn't willing to share with the other person in their relationship which can cause resentment or suspicion. I have really made an effort to be very candid with my feelings because your partner is not... I repeat not a mind reader. Men don't get hints. As a matter of fact, men are very simple. When they want something, they will go for it. When they don't, they won't. I know, ladies, this is a hard concept to understand but its true. There's no underlying meaning, there's no secret, he's not thinking anything in depth (not to say a man isn't capable), I'm just saying, as women, we tend to overanalyze. I am guilty of that, or else I wouldn't write a blog :-/ Remember, actions speak louder than words.
Anyhow, back at my point. I am a hopeless romantic but I do realize that there might not be "The One". I can think of 3 men I've dated that could have been someone I saw myself settle down with,unfortunately, it wasn't in the cards at the time. When the time is right, that person who is perfect for me, will walk through some door and chemistry, time and communication will take its course.