I've been struggling with the topic of discussions in my blog. Yes, I have encountered many dating adventures, however, now that I'm not single, I have been searching for what to blog about since my true passion is writing. In the past few months, I have been undergoing this crazy transformation. I thought I was happy before but now I'm just fulfilled. I have been going about this journey of life all wrong. I did have the right idea though. If you treat people with respect and you are positive, good things will happen to you. It has been a culmination of finding church and reading books like "The Secret" and "The Power of Now" among other things such as my super supportive boyfriend.
Now, I have a better feel for what life holds in front of us when we have an unclouded vision of anger and hate. You are responsible for you and only you. You cannot control other people's actions. When you realize that, you will understand that when you are a better version of yourself, then all things will start to fall into place. Unnecessary conflict doesn't result to anything but that, conflict. Sometimes I look at people around me and I think to myself as to why they did what they did or say what they said. Every action has a reaction. Some people in my life have approached me in asking, "Why are you so patient?" It's because some situations are out of our control. Either you accept it for what it is and/or find a solution to resolve it.
I have been through so much in my early 20's. I made a decision that I was not going to allow those events to weaken me. I could had gone a completely other way, psychologically speaking. Let's just say, if I continued on that path, I would have been the cliche of a girl with Daddy issues.
In my previous blog, I wrote about forgiveness. That has been the hardest concept for me to grasp. How do you forgive someone that hurt you? Because you are not responsible for their actions, only yours. That's why. You as a person has no right to judge anyone. You might not agree with their actions, however, at the end of the day, you are not them. You are you. This idea has been the core of my growth. I forgave all of those who have hurt me. After all of this time, that is what hindered me from taking my wall down and really being truly happy.
I believe with all of those people I've had met in the pursuit of finding a relationship had only peeled back a few layers of what I could potentially become but I knew deep down inside, I would be something great. And I will continue to write about my growth. Let's see how this goes...