Lessons Learned in Love: How Heartbreak Taught Me My Worth

Over the last year, life has taken me on an emotional rollercoaster—one that forced me to reassess what I truly want out of life and love.

There were moments where I felt completely lost, even though I was once so sure of the future I envisioned. I was living in limbo—reacting to life instead of creating it. The fog is just now beginning to lift.

My last relationship—if you can even call it that—was short-lived, but intense enough to leave a lasting impact. I’ve replayed every moment, every conversation, every red flag. And the conclusion I’ve come to is this:
I should’ve walked away the first time I felt doubt, instead of waiting for all hope to disappear.

Instead, I stayed. I overcompensated. I kept trying to prove my worth to someone who was too afraid to receive it. He was still wounded from a previous relationship. And in trying to avoid his pain, he created new wounds for me.

It was another tough lesson in the idea that rebound relationships rarely work.

And while I had never laughed so much or felt so connected to someone at first, I had to ask myself—was the emotional toll worth it?

A friend of mine once said,

“As a Gemini, you tend to dive in headfirst. You want to see the good in people. You give your heart before checking if it’s safe.”

And she’s right.

But the last two experiences taught me to pause. To breathe. To see the bigger picture, not just the hopeful potential. Most importantly, they taught me this:

Knowing your self-worth is everything.

When you know your value, you stop chasing people who can’t see it. You stop trying to prove yourself to someone who should’ve known your worth from the start.

Yes, the pain will fade. But the memory of it will linger—just long enough to protect me from repeating the same mistake.

Unfortunately, heartbreak often builds walls. The next person will likely face those walls. But maybe that’s not a bad thing. Because the right person won’t run from them.

They’ll see the walls... and think you’re worth climbing over them.