I recently heard something on the radio that was quite disturbing. A girl was raped after getting into a car with a stranger. My first question is why would anyone get into a car with a stranger? It boggles my mind the naivety of some people. Maybe it's my thick skin or the fact that I've had so many close calls, I'm not really sure. Don't people remember their parents teaching them about "stranger danger"? That concept applies all of your life, not just when you're a child. I know that most rapes occur within a person's social circle. According to the Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network (RAIIN), 4 out of 5 sexual assaults are done by no one you know. But I want to be an advocate for those who might not make the best choices when it comes to trusting someone they don't know. Recently, I found a social experiment where a popular Youtuber lured unsuspecting women into his car.
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I am speaking from experience. There was a point in my life where I was just as naive as some women who make dangerous decisions.
Here is another scenario. You meet someone at a bar and he invites you over to his place after. What do you expect is going to happen? He's going to be a nice guy and you two are going to have a long night of conversation. Probably not. I remember a line from "How I Met Your Mother" that said,
"When it's after 2:00 a.m., just go to sleep because the decisions you make after 2:00 a.m. are the wrong decisions."
Just go home, hold some dignity, and enjoy the fact that if he is a good guy, then he will call you because he respects you. If he is not, then he wasn't right for you. I don't know how many times I had to convince myself of the same. Sometimes our insecurities cause us to make bad decisions. That's exactly why the movie "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" made so much sense.
I can't say any more than women need to make better decisions and take pride within ourselves. We are not perfect and bad things might still happen but we can prevent some of those bad things going left instead of right or vice versa. I can honestly say that most of my bad dates could have been avoided but my own curiosity was a blessing and a curse. Most of the bad decisions I've made could have had different outcomes if I put my self worth first. I do also believe that God does not put you through anything you can't handle and it is all done in His time.
If you have any questions about sexual assault or need someone to talk to, I am here as a listening ear to both men and women alike.
