"Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again." - Matthew 7:1-2 (KJV)
Society and the bible teaches us two different things. All over social media someone is judging what someone is wearing, what they are doing, how they are doing, what their children look like, how many posts they put up a day and so on. Reality TV has made a killing because viewers love a drama. They want to live vicariously through people in situations they probably could not dream of being a part of whether it would be a love story or two girls having it out because their weave was pulled. I mean there's a show on judging what someone was wearing on the red carpet.
I think sometimes we're so accustomed to judging and talking about other people that we lose sight of how we should really treat others. I tell myself not to scrutinize someone because it is not right but there might be a little voice in my head that is saying otherwise. God says not to judge because he created us in his image. He will make the final decision on judgement day. Whether you are Christian or not, the same holds true through most religions. To be an honest person who embraces themselves and loves others. I am told that I am to love everyone even if I don't agree with their decisions.
I guess this comes as difficult for me because all I've ever wanted to do is help people but in the long run I ended up just trying to make them more like myself. My happiness is my own. I have the yearn to teach other people but it has taken me a long time to recognize to give help when someone seeks it. Someone once asked me,
"Why do you feel the need to teach them how to be grammatically more correct? Is it for them or is it for you?"
I think in the end we're boosting our ego. It's never for them. It's to make us feel like we've done something to help even though they didn't ask for it. I have sincerely been struggling with not trying to control others in what they do. All control does is boost the ego. I know I've spoken about ego in previous posts, its a false sense of making us feel better about ourselves. Living on my own for such a long time, I realize that I might have become set in my ways and I have to search to find a way to stop the control. Let life happen.
It's interesting because I've spoken to some of my guy friends who are planning weddings and they feel frazzled. I think wedding planning has to be one of the most hectic things one might do because you want to control the outcome. In reality, you can't. You can do the best you can and know the day will be amazing regardless of the bumps in the road. Once you let go, I know you will feel peace. Work hard at it and things will find a way of working out the way God intended.