Is the Perfect Man Out There?

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Recently, the Comedian was on Central Florida Live (shout out to the crew!), and of course, I was glued to the radio like any proud girlfriend would be. Toward the end of the broadcast, the host asked a question that had me yelling at my speakers: “Are women’s standards too high these days?”

Now that is a topic I can speak on.

Naturally, I called in. This is my lane—dating, expectations, love, all of it. The Comedian, being his smooth self, casually asked on air, “Babe, what’s that thing you always say?”

Without missing a beat, I replied, “He may not be perfect, but he’s perfect for me.”

That right there is the point.

We all have different flavors we’re drawn to—some people want Rocky Road, others crave Mint Chocolate Chip. And sometimes we confuse what looks good on paper with what actually feels good in real life. You can date someone who checks every box, but if the vibe isn’t there? Game over.

By Ana C.

Look, being picky is okay. Scratch that—you should be picky. But picky with clarity. Not that never-ending list of dreamboat traits you jotted down during a Netflix binge. I’m talking about Patti Stanger’s five non-negotiables. In her book Become Your Own Matchmaker, she encourages everyone to define the top 5 things you absolutely cannot live without in a partner.

And let me tell you—it’s a game changer.

If you’re stuck, try this: write down everything you want in a partner. All of it. Then start cutting until you’re down to just five. Trust me, it’ll reveal what really matters.

Here were mine back when I was looking:

  1. Must be able to take care of himself financially

  2. Must not be shy

  3. Must be family-oriented

  4. Must be well-groomed

  5. Must want to try new things

Sound familiar? Yep—that’s the Comedian, through and through. It’s almost eerie how much he fits.

Someone once told me that when it comes to job hunting, you have to know exactly what you’re looking for—or you’ll waste time applying for the wrong roles. Shouldn’t dating work the same way?

I say yes.

I’ve dated just to date. I've gone on the “maybe” dates. The “I’m bored” dates. The “he’s nice, but…” dates. But real love—the kind that fits—is different. You feel it. You laugh more. You breathe easier. You finally stop scrolling.

Does that mean he’ll always remember to put the toilet seat down or buy flowers weekly? Absolutely not. But does he meet your core needs—the ones that really matter?

For me, I needed someone I could laugh with forever. And that’s exactly what I found.

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