Recently, the Comedian went on a radio show (shout out to Central Florida Live). Of course, I was intently listening in on the broadcast as any proud girlfriend should. Towards the end of the program, they brought up something very interesting. Are women's standards way too high? Now, I started to think, are women's standards too high, like for real? Naturally, I called in because this was my forte, this was my topic... dating. It was funny because the conversation between the Comedian and I was natural. He asked me, "Babe, what is that thing you always say?"
I replied, "He may not be perfect but he's perfect for me."
That's really the point. Everyone has a different favorite flavor of ice cream. We all get caught up in what might be "good on paper". A guy might have all of the qualities you were looking for but if your personalities don't click, then what's the point. Being picky is okay as long as you are willing to give up a thing or two if you really want to find love.
I think I talk about this woman all of the time, Patti Stanger. In her book, Become Your Own Matchmaker, she talks about your 5 non-negotiables. Like 5 things you cannot live without in a significant other. This might take a little soul searching to figure out which 5 are it. I would suggest writing out a list of things you want in your significant other then cut the list down until you have your 5 left. I know this is hard... just take a pen and paper, a deep breath, and do it.
I'll give you my 5 non-negotiables and let me know how the Comedian fits. (trust me... it's uncanny)
- MUST BE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF FINANCIALLY
- MUST NOT BE SHY
- MUST BE FAMILY ORIENTED
- MUST BE WELL GROOMED
- MUST WANT TO TRY NEW THINGS
I know... weird right? It's pretty spot on if you ask me. Someone once told me while I was searching for a job that you have to know what job you're looking for in order to get the one that fits. Why should it not be the same to find the "Perfect Man"?
I am a huge advocate for narrowing down your interests so that you're not just dating to date. Trust me, I've been there, done that. And also, prayer does go a long way. As they say, it does happen when you least expect it. As many times as I didn't want to believe it, that cliche is true.
You are allowed to be picky but be picky in a way that it fits and let some things go. Not every man is going to remember to put the toilet seat down or bring you flowers every day of the week but find what fits what you need. I needed to laugh for the rest of my life and that's exactly what I got.
