Ghosting

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UrbanDictionary.com defines ghosting as “The act of disappearing on your friends without notice.” But let’s be honest—ghosting has gone beyond friendships. It’s practically the unofficial exit strategy of modern dating.

I recently heard a conversation on the radio about this and thought, "Wow, this isn't new to me." Truth is, I’ve ghosted and I’ve been ghosted—and I’m willing to bet most people reading this have too.

Picture This:

You go on an amazing date with someone who totally gets you.
There's chemistry. Banter. Maybe even a magical kiss goodnight and a long, lingering hug.
He says, “I’ll call you tomorrow.”

Then... silence.
Tomorrow passes. Then another day.
Still nothing.

You convince yourself not to text him first—“Play it cool,” you tell yourself.
But curiosity (or hope) wins. You hit send.

And still... nothing.
Congratulations. You’ve just been ghosted.

Why Do People Ghost?

Let’s be real: no one likes the awkward conversation that comes with saying “I’m not feeling this.”
So instead of dealing with it, people just vanish.
They disappear without explanation, hoping time will cover their tracks.

Sometimes it’s because:

  • They’re emotionally unavailable

  • They’re dealing with personal chaos

  • They’re cowards

  • Or... they just weren’t that into you

And yes, I’ve ghosted before too. Not proudly, but because it's easier than giving an explanation to someone I didn’t feel a connection with.

What Ghosting Isn’t:

It’s not about you doing something wrong.
It doesn’t mean you’re unworthy.
It’s not an invitation to create wild scenarios in your head about what went wrong.

It just means he wasn’t your person—and he didn’t have the emotional maturity to communicate that.

How to Deal with Ghosting:

Don’t spiral. Don’t chase. Don’t overanalyze.
Just take it for what it is: a clear sign that this person wasn’t aligned with your energy or intentions.

Take a deep breath.
You’ve officially dodged someone who doesn’t know how to use their words.
Move on. And know that the right person won’t vanish when things get real.