I know I've told this story to many people but a couple of weeks ago, I had thought I finally made a connection with someone on a personal level. I met him in person for the first time and I was looking like I made an effort. He shows up in military green pants and a plaid shirt. Again, because we clicked over the phone, I gave him the benefit of the doubt. We sat down to dinner and had pretty decent conversation. I thought to myself, "Maybe this could work." When the bill came, I sensed something different. Excuse me for being a prude, however, I believe if a man asks you on a date, he pays for the bill. He chose the place, he invited me, and its the first date. The bill sat on the table for about 30 minutes. I had a feeling he was waiting for me to offer to pay. He went to the bathroom and, I have to admit, I took a look at the bill. Finally, he came back and put his card with the check. When he signed, he only added a $5.00 tip. I can tell you this... that was about 5% of the check.
Not only was I not really attracted to him, I was totally turned off. Our waiter was not mediocre, he was awesome. Very knowledgeable of the menu, wine selection and made conversation with us during our meal. I felt so bad, I sent a compliment card to the restaurant with a generous tip included.
Anyhow, we went for a walk as I tried to convince myself that maybe it wasn't so bad. But I couldn't get over what just had happened. After finishing our walk, I told him that I wanted to go home. It was late and I was tired. At least, that's what I told him.
The next day, he sent me a routine text both of us had become accustomed to over the previous week. I broke down and told him, "Listen, I think its best we should just be friends." Apparently, he didn't take it so well because he called me right after the text was sent. He asked what happened and I tried to hide the fact that I was turned off by his actions and told him that I didn't feel the chemistry. Granted, I wasn't completely lying. He then said he felt weird because I wasn't the girl he thought I was and I had been lying about who I was to him.
After I hung up, he continued to send texts accusing me of letting my friends make my decisions. I thought this guy was crazy. I finally told him the truth. He then admitted that he was caught but I had no right to judge him for that one action. That he was not cheap. He actually did expect me to pay for part of the bill! He told me he was on a budget and didn't expect the bill to come to that much. Really?? This guy from New York really didn't expect the bill to be that much. He chose the place!! Do your research and don't expect me to have any sort of sympathy for your actions?!?!
Sigh... let's just say, that was the end of that!