Men Vs Boys
I was having a conversation with a good friend yesterday. I was telling him that I had contemplated on moving to a different city that would offer more as far as things to do, a better career and possibly finding love. My experience in Orlando has been daunting. I don't know if its the men I attract, however, I seem to find what he would call "boys". About a month ago, I met someone who was in their 40s and knew exactly what he wanted. That day, he wanted me. It was an eye opening experience. I met him at a conference where he was well known by other people his age who were established. I met so many people and it opened my eyes to new opportunities and what I might be capable of. What impressed me the most is that he was so honest!
The biggest difference is men know what they want and they are confident enough to tell you that. Boys still want to play games. Recently, I have endured my masochist behavior by starting dialogue with someone I used to date. I had hung out with him a couple of times when he told me I was amazing and that we should get married. Basically, putting something in my ear so I can think about him. I gave him the benefit of the doubt because I thought he was sincere. This morning, I checked my Facebook as I normally do and there he was, In a relationship. WTFreak! Man up and tell me you're interested in another girl. I won't be mad. I wasn't the girl for you. I would respect you more for being honest than if you hide and I find out on my own.
If I have enough confidence to tell someone he's not for me and I'm a woman, then I would expect the same integrity from a man. I might come off a little harsh or strong but I believe a woman deserves to get treated with respect regardless of the situation. Yes, I don't put up with a lot of BS and yes, I speak my mind but those are all building blocks to figuring out whether this relationship is not for you. There is no mystery because I know to have a successful relationship, you have to be honest (unless you're going to surprise me with a piece of jewelry) :-)
Don't you know the key to a great relationship is communication.