I haven't written in a while because I haven't had any gripes in the dating world. In all honesty, I'm the happiest I've ever been. Yes, this neurotic woman has found herself in a very happy relationship.What I find interesting in this state of happiness is I still seek to help others with my dating tips. Last weekend, I was in a car full of guys and one girl, most of the guys were in their early 20s. I had the urge to protect them from the women of the world who might take advantage of their young naive minds. One in particular had the urge to ask 20 question one what to look for in the perfect woman. I am an avid believer in not finding the perfect person but finding the perfect person for you. He asked me whether it mattered if the girl dated a lot in the past if that made a difference. I kind of laughed on the inside due to my apparent dating history. No it does not matter. What matters is how you make each other feel and the commitment both of you are willing to make. I think we all put too much emphasis on the way things are supposed to be. Sometimes it just is. Put the games aside and just be you and let yourself go. I may sound like a free spirit or on cloud 9 but a good friend told me when it feels easy and natural, that's the way falling for someone is supposed to be. No gimmicks, no games just you and that other person. Don't let your insecurities and your past blind you into thinking history will repeat itself because it may just not happen.