I'm a Strong Woman

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Thankfully, I carry the spirit of my grandmother on my dad’s side — the strongest woman I know. Recently, I traveled to Puerto Rico for my uncle’s funeral. I didn’t know him well, but I went to support my cousins, who mean a lot to me. The hardest part wasn’t the service itself… it was seeing my grandmother cry — something I never imagined I’d witness. That moment reminded me just how deep strength runs in our family, even when it shows up with tears.

I had to become independent pretty early in life — around 14. My parents were going through a divorce, and a lot was shifting in my world. I learned quickly that if I took care of myself, I wouldn't be a burden to anyone. That mindset stuck. Over time, I became the kind of woman who handles business, holds it together, and rarely falls apart. It’s a blessing… but sometimes, also a curse. I know how to keep my ducks in a row — but letting go, asking for help, or sharing the load? That doesn’t come easily.

Not too long ago, I read an article titled Ask a Guy: Are Men Intimidated by Strong Women? A few points stuck with me:

When someone is secure and self-sufficient:

– They don’t need to control others. They lead with calm, not force.
– They speak clearly and compassionately, without arguing or offending.
– They have nothing to prove. Their actions are rooted in their own desires, not external validation.
– They’re emotionally open — not because they’re naïve, but because they know they can protect themselves if needed.
– They’re whole, living by their own standards — not seeking completion in someone else.

A strong woman isn’t cold. She isn’t unfeeling. She’s just built differently. We’ve learned to manage ourselves — our emotions, our needs, our lives — so we can show up for others with joy, with love, and with a clear mind.

So if you’ve got a strong woman in your life? Don’t let her go. She won’t ask for much. But she’ll give you everything — and she’ll inspire you to be better, too.