Why Actions Speak Louder than Words in Modern Dating

This past weekend reminded me—yet again—that actions really do speak louder than words. Honestly, how stupid do you think I am? Some men string together all the right lines to make you feel like you’re on top of the world, but in the end, it’s just that: words.

I used to fall for the charm. It doesn’t take much for me to feel like I can trust someone—but come on. Do you really think I’m going to have a one-night stand just because you say, “No, ma, I promise we’ll still be friends”? Be for real. What kind of lasting relationship comes from that? Usually, the answer is simple: purely physical ones.

Lately, I keep bumping into guys who believe that if they say the right thing, they’ll get what they want. What they don’t realize is—I’ve heard it all. I’ve lived through the *“I promise”*s and the “I’m not like the others” speeches. And you know what? I’m still here, but not because of them.

Here’s the thing: I try to live life positively. But when you’re surrounded by people who judge your choices, who use charm as manipulation, or who think you’re naïve—you start to question who’s really being real.

People often tell me I’m “one of the guys.” Maybe that’s why I can see through the game. I know the lingo, the timing, the tactics. And yes, I’ve been guilty of playing the game myself. But that’s exactly why I know when someone thinks they’ve got one over on me.

So here’s my question: When will people stop relying on words and start showing up with real actions? Because when it comes down to it, words mean nothing without follow-through.