Bad Dating Habits and How to Fix Them

You’ve been on a few dates, and something’s just not clicking. You’re bringing your best self (or so you think), but you still can’t seem to get past the first or second date. Cue the terrible chick flicks (Christmas Prince, anyone?) and mint chocolate chip ice cream (yes, it’s still the best flavor).
Hate to break it to you, but... sometimes you are the problem.

Let’s talk about the most common bad dating habits—and how to kick them to the curb so you can finally find a relationship that sticks.

🚩 1. Being Too Available

I know you’re excited—he’s hot, you’re vibing, and he finally asked you out. But showing up the second he calls doesn’t leave room for anticipation. And yes, the chase matters.

Try this instead: If he asks to hang out on Friday, say, “I actually have something going on—how about Saturday?”
Now you’re showing that you have a life outside of dating, and that makes you way more appealing.

🚩 2. Not Acting Like You’re Girlfriend Material

Let me explain. If you’re known as the party girl, your place is a hot mess, and you curse like a sailor 24/7… it might be time for a little self-check.
Dating is kind of like an interview—you don’t want to fake it, but you should still put your best foot forward.

Funny story: The Comedian was never on time, but on our first few dates, he made a huge effort to be punctual because he knew I valued it. His mom later revealed his lateness was legendary—I had been bamboozled. But by then, I was in too deep. 😅

Moral of the story? Be the person you want to attract before getting into a relationship.

🚩 3. Being Too Picky

I’m all for having standards, but if you’re holding out for a Christian Grey fantasy, you might be waiting a while.

Make a list of your top 5 non-negotiables. These are the “must-haves” that truly matter to you—values, goals, lifestyle, etc. The rest? Let it go.
Need help? Download my [Dating Terms worksheet] to narrow it down.

🚩 4. Flakiness

This one’s a dealbreaker. Integrity matters. If you say you’re going to show up—show up. If something comes up, just send a quick text. It literally takes five seconds to say, “Hey, I’ve had a rough day. Can we reschedule?”

People remember how you treat their time. Flakiness is a red flag you’re not emotionally ready to date.
(If you're curious, I once dated a notorious flake. The full story’s here → link it up!)

🚩 5. Ignoring Your Insecurities

This one’s big. If you haven’t dealt with your insecurities—abandonment, body image, past trauma—they’ll creep into your dating life.

I’ve been there. I used to lie about my past and apologize constantly because I was insecure. You don’t have to carry shame for things that shaped you.

Do the work. Therapy, journaling, books—whatever helps you heal. Because when you love yourself, you stop choosing people who don’t.

💡 Final Thought

Dating isn’t just about meeting the right person. It’s about becoming someone who’s ready to receive love when it comes. When you’re grounded, self-aware, and committed to your own happiness, the right relationship shows up like magic.

Now go finish that ice cream and start fresh.