5 Reasons Why You're Single

Christmas is less than a week away! It's been a fantastic year so far, and we're happy to have spent it with all of you. Today, we start the show talking about my trip to North Carolina and our battles with weight loss. Oy vay! Only if we could eat and whatever we want without gaining a pound.

Let's get into our topic for the day. Being single is not a bad thing. Sometimes life gives us opportunities that we cannot control. However, if you're one of those ladies sitting around wondering why prince charming hasn't come to sweep you off your feet, then you are in for a surprise. The problem could be YOU.

Here are some reasons why you're single:

You're not over your ex

If you find yourself consistently cyberstalking your ex, talking about the breakup, and how bad of a person he or she was, then you're not over your ex. Unfortunately, bringing negative baggage into a new relationship is a recipe for disaster.

Go ahead and take all the time you need. When the timing is right, your ex will be the last thing on your mind.

Your career is more important

We totally get it, and we want to empower you to follow your dreams. Sometimes things like relationships have to take a back seat if establishing your career is super important.

Taking time out of your day to date requires your full and undivided attention. If you want a relationship but you find yourself working late nights and consistently checking your emails, you need to reassess your priorities. Your potential significant other will want to spend time with you. Figure out what is more important right now. Being in a relationship or furthering your career. We want you to be happy.

Your kids are more important

Balancing kids, family, and your social life is draining. Add a person who wants to whisk you away on the weekends. Then you might have to give up some things. Again, take a look at what you really want. Let's call it your bandwidth. There are only so many hours in a day. If you can't see yourself giving something up to add another person to your life, then it's not the time for a relationship.

You haven't found the right guy/girl

You know the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. It will drive you crazy. You keep dating the same kind of person and end up with the same ending, but you can't figure out the problem. I have news for you. There's one common denominator. YOU!

We suggest trying to date outside of the norm or your "type" to see if there's something you haven't seen before. Also, figure out what kind of person you want to date. I've created this handy Dating Template to narrow down your 5 must-haves in a significant other. If they don't cross off the top five, they are not for you.

You want to be single

More power to you! If you know you would rather be single, and you're happy with that then be single. Both Brenda and I had points in our lives where if we did end up being single, then we would be totally okay. You'll be fine. The best kind of relationship is the one with yourself.

If you have any questions or need advice, feel free to email me at val@valsbytes.com!