5 Tips Before Dating Your Friend's Ex

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On today's episode, we talk about what to do when you think you're falling for your friend's ex.  This is a sticky situation especially if your friend might still have feelings for her ex-beau.  We'll explain more in detail but here's the gist of what needs to go down before taking the next step.

  1.  Decide if it is a good idea to date your friend's ex

    1. You know your girls best.  If you have been sitting on the phone, listening cry over her ex-lover, then you should already know the answer to this question.  Yes, people do fall in love in the most interesting of circumstances, however, is it worth losing your friend over?
  2. Ask your friend

    1. Communication is the key.  Before even approaching the guy you've been eyeing or getting tingles from just touching his fingers, tell your friend you are interested.  By receiving her blessing, the ball is in her court if she starts to get bitter feelings.  Though you shouldn't be completely selfish this is a step in the right direction.
  3. Communication, communication, communication

    1. If the guy or gal is ready to take the dating leap, then express your concerns about your BFFs feelings.  You know how what they say,

      Boys come and go but friends are forever

      Your new beau should be aware that this arrangement took a lot of communication and he or she should understand the circumstances you are facing.  If they are insensitive to your friendship, then they probably aren't a good fit in the first place.

  4. Lay low for a little bit

    1. Your friend might be an amazing person, but they may not be ready to see you and her ex together.  It's a good idea to lay low for a little bit to see if this relationship is worthwhile.  There's a possibility things will go up in flames, so it's better to handle that on your own without you grabbing a bottle of wine and heading to your BFFs house.  When you and your new beau know this relationship is serious and you're going great, then it's a good idea to integrate your BFF back into your life slowly.
  5. Watch out for red flags

    1. Old habits die hard and so do feelings.  Keep an eye out for any behavior showing that your BFF is not okay with the arrangement or there are some pent up feelings left in your beau.  It's better to get it all out in the open before you're walking down the aisle.  At that time, it's a little too late.

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