Checking Off the Red Flag Checklist

Dating can be scary especially when you're not prepared.  This week, I found this fantastic red flag checklist (click link here) that qualifies your date.  If you're looking for a long term relationship, this is a great guide to go by before it's too late.  You know, like when you realize that the guy was crazy four months into the relationship when you have already fallen in love.  Here are the basics:

Red Flag 1 - Protecting Your Future

If you're planning to have kids, imagine your life with the person you're dating and the idea that your child will be like him.  The apple does not fall far from the tree.  Also, long term relationships mean, long term.  Can you imagine being with this person for the rest of your life?  Pull out your trusty notepad and get to work on your pros and cons list.  If your cons outweigh your pros, you better analyze your relationship.  Life is too short to waste it on someone who won't be there for the long haul.

Red Flag 2 - Talking Yourself into a Relationship

There are so many instances in which friends of mine start to make excuses for their significant others.  Consider this your first red flag.  As soon as you say, well, he's just that way or creating this idealized image of your partner in your mind, then it's time to reevaluate.  This checklist is pretty comprehensive and breaks down the different levels that you would be talking yourself into a relationship.

Red Flag 3 - Danger Signs

A violent relationship is a slippery slope.  Many women continually go into relationships where they have been abused over and over again because they cannot break the cycle.  Nearly half of all women and men in the United States have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime (48.4% and 48.8%, respectively). First and foremost, you deserve the very best partner ever.  Never deny yourself of that.

If you are being abused, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.  Recognize the signs early and find someone who will love you the way you deserved to be loved.

Recognizing red flags is easier said than done.  We know that being consumed by lust, in the beginning, is a very exciting time but put yourself first.

On a lighter note, don't forget about the Ultimate Dating Basket Giveaway!  We will be posting pictures this week of all of the items in the basket, so you know first hand what you will be getting if you are our lucky winner.

Good Luck and Happy Early Birthday Brenda!!