Titles: When Labels in Dating Get Complicated

During my long, relaxing three-day weekend, I indulged in one of my favorite rituals—my own little Sex and the City marathon.

As I watched, something stood out: the women on the show would casually refer to men they’d only dated for a short while as their “boyfriend.”

And honestly? That baffled me a little.

I’ve always held titles in high regard. I thought most women did. Maybe it’s just me, but calling someone your boyfriend after a few dates seems... fast.

Then again, maybe it’s the show’s weird sense of time. Sometimes weeks pass between episodes, other times it feels like it’s all happening in a single day. It’s hard to tell what’s real.

So I started thinking about my own relationships—how quickly (or not) I’ve used titles in the past. I’ve seen relationships where two people fall fast and can’t live without each other. And I’ve also seen the opposite: a long courtship filled with uncertainty that never turns into anything more.

I’ve been in both.
And that long, drawn-out almost-relationship?

It ended in heartbreak.

There never seems to be a happy medium. And maybe that’s the point. Every situation, every connection, is different. Each one deserves to be treated as uniquely as the people in it.

After last year’s heartbreak, I’ve become much more cautious. I guard my energy more. I protect my heart.
But sometimes I wonder…

Should I be a little softer?
Should I stop overthinking and just enjoy the moment?
Should I go with the flow?

The truth is—who really knows?

What I do believe is that the best things happen when you least expect them. And yes, deep down, I still hope to be swept off my feet like one of the many romantic fantasies in my head.

Titles might not be so bad.
It’s the “L” word I’m really afraid of... 😅❤️