6 Topics You Need to Discuss Before Marriage

Many women dream about the day of their wedding. We forget the reason for the wedding is marriage. Couples don’t take the time to discuss their likes, dislikes, wants, needs, and more before taking the leap. In 2015, the divorce was 16.9 out of every 1000 women. Knowing your mate before walking down the aisle will help in keeping you out of the statistic.

Today, Brenda and I talk about our views on subjects couples should discuss before getting married.

Think about it; some small things never cross your mind like your single habits.  Val likes to paint her toenails while sitting on the floor or look at the follicles of your eyebrows with a microscope.  These are some things you might not have considered sharing in past, but now you are tying the knot, your partner will see them.

  1. Finances in your marriage

    Paying your bills on your own was one thing but combining your finances is another.  If your potential spouse has a low credit score, think about how that will impact whether you buy a house now or later.  Also, are you still going to pay the bills separately?  Finances are one of the most fought about topics in a relationship.

  2. Sex Life

    You're in it for the long haul.  Your sex life will become monotonous.   There's no way of avoiding it.  One day, you'll look over at your partner and know their "go to" move and you'll say to yourself... here we go again.  Communication is key.  Mix it up in the bedroom and remember to date your spouse.

  3. Spirituality/Religion

    Religion and spirituality come into play especially when it comes to raising kids.  Do you want them to grow up in a specific religion?

  4. Politics

    My momma always said, never talk about religion and politics.  There's a reason for that.  Some topics are very sensitive however you are planning to be with this person for better or for worse.  If you lean significantly to the left and your spouse leans to the right, you will bump heads.

  5. Daily Chores

    This is surprising in that you don't think about who will do what when you're planning a wedding.  Again, communicate your expectations with your spouse.

  6. Whether to have kids or not

    Some women and men dream about having a family.  But sometimes, even with a lot of science, that dream may never come true.  Is this something you both are comfortable with if it doesn't happen?  Also, do you want to have kids?

These might seem like simple questions, but they make a difference in your marriage.  Building a solid foundation is key and knocking some of these topics out before tying the knot will alleviate some headaches in the first few years.

For more reading check out the following:

Things I'd Wish I'd Known Before I Got Married - Gary Chapman

5 Topics Coupled Don't Discuss Until It's Too Late