Her Story, His Story, and the Truth About Breakups

by Satish Krishnamurthy

Today was one of those days—I was asked for breakup advice not once, but twice. Funny thing about breakups: no two are the same. Every relationship has its own unique story, its own set of circumstances, and two very different people navigating their emotions. And truthfully? I’m not in the relationship, so I can’t pretend to understand both sides. But what I can speak to is what comes after—the recovery.

For me, heartbreak looks like sad love songs, a bottle of wine, and lying on the couch in my favorite old sweatshirt. It’s not glamorous, but it’s honest. You’ve got to let the tears fall. You’ve got to sit with your pain before you can begin to let it go. Healing is a process, and it’s not meant to be pretty.

The most important step is this: get back to yourself. Before the relationship, you were whole. You had your own rhythm, your own joy, your own identity. Then, love comes along—and you start sharing your world with someone else. It’s easy to lose sight of where you end and they begin. But when it’s over, the best thing you can do is come home to yourself.

That doesn’t mean sleeping around or drinking to forget. That’s not healing—that’s numbing. Feel the pain. Get uncomfortable. Figure out who you are after the breakup. Decide who you want to become on the other side of this.

Because here’s the truth: trying to understand why someone left might drive you crazy. There’s always more than one version of the story—your side, their side, and somewhere in between… the truth. The real question is: what story are you going to tell yourself going forward?

Everyone will have advice. Some of it will be helpful. A lot of it won’t. But in the end, your heart is the one you have to live with. So listen to it. Let it speak. Let it guide you home.